I have been writing this blog for a little while now. Some of you have been reading from the beginning, thank you. Some of you are new, thank you also and I hope you stick around! With that being noted, I consider you guys my friends. I like to stay transparent and keep it “real” with my friends, therefore I feel I can do that here with you today. Today I’d like to open up with a personal experience and about how I have gotten back on track with prioritizing life.
As of late, blogging, working out and working my real job, have made me get off track with my priorities and what is really important in this life. Don’t get me wrong, I believe that sharing happiness, health and fitness with the world is important, but it isn’t as enjoyable when my God given priorities aren’t taken care of first.
I was recently confronted by my sweet husband about this (I didn’t find him sweet at that time). Though I knew in the back of my mind I had been spending too much time on the computer, blogging, responding to comments, creating videos etc. It took someone I love to address it and I must admit it hurt.
Having your husband tell you that you are slacking on your “household” responsibilities does not feel good! Now, before you get up in arms, let me state my husband does more than his fair share around the house.
He cooks, he cleans, he does the laundry and helps with the kids. So it is not like he was asking me to do something that he does not do. What he was telling me is that he needed me to put Him, the kids and the house before the blog, exercise and my job.
I’ll admit, I got angry! In my mind, I was doing the blogging, the workouts and everything else for us, for our family. I wanted to blog enough so that maybe one day I could make a career out of it and that would be all I’d have to do.
I would then be able to have the house clean, have the kids situated and have a hot meal prepared when he walked through the door. Working for myself has always been my dream, I’d love to be my own boss one day!
Obviously I worked out because I want to be healthy and strong and look good for him to boot! Why couldn’t he see this I thought.
Well after throwing a temper tantrum, nearly breaking my phone by the intensity that I texted him and yelling at God for help, I told myself to calm down and I asked God to help me.
I then realized that the reason I got so upset was because everything he said was true. I was putting the blog before him and the house. I was spending a lot of time on social media engaging with my readers. I was ignoring the very people that I felt I was doing all of it for.
This just didn’t make sense. I am the very one who believes in being present and enjoying the now. However I almost missed the now by trying to work so hard toward the future, which I have to remind myself is not promised.
After this whole ordeal I was ready to give up my blog and jump full force into my house hold responsibilities. You know, all dramatic and stuff. Like oh you want the house taken care of thats what I’ll do AND NOTHING ELSE!
My sweet husband encouraged me though. He told me, “I don’t want you to give up blogging, you are so good at it and it’s a creative outlet. I just want us to work together to get things around the house done first.” I’m like as if! LOL Why is it when we are mad we want to stay mad? 🙂
Anyway, he was right, I just needed to re-prioritize. That is what I have done.
I have decided to limit posts to three times a week, and make sure everything and everyone is taken care of before I start. I really want my husband to be a part of my blog and understand my love for it, so I asked if he would edit my videos and take my pictures and of course he agreed.
I encourage anyone that might be reading this today and might feel like they are neglecting their responsibilities and family for less important things, to take a step back re-focus and ask your family what they think. Are they feeling low on your priority list?
I feel so much better about writing and happier now that I know I have put it in its right place on my list of priorities. It also feels good that my family supports me.
Do you need to prioritize some things in your life? Don’t wait.
“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” – 1 Timothy 5:8.